What is social distance teaching us about relationships?

Social isolation made us stop to rethink our relationships. In this time when all relationships in life have changed, whether it’s work, with children, family, friends, we understand how important the relationship with others is in order for us to construct, deconstruct and reconstruct ourselves. This relationship of teaching and learning, of exchanging experiences. These relationships become the fuel of life. That’s why we have such a need to share. In the film “Into the Wild” the great lesson transmitted is that happiness is only real when shared. Would you agree with that too?

Since the way we relate to others will not be the same anytime soon, this is a good time to take a closer look into the relationship with ourselves. This way, we begin to understand how the universe of others work. Because the relation you have with yourself, usually reflects your relation with the whole. And how is that relationship with yourself? Has it been with self-care, self-love, self-responsibility? Or has it been filled with guilt, fear, victimization and sadness?

As we saw on a previous post, our emotions can become feelings, when we keep thinking about them and let them absorb. So, are we going to start noticing our emotions and what they are causing us? When we understand that emotions matter, then we will be able to live a healthier, and more respectful relationship with, not only ourselves, but others too.

Self Care in time of Coronavirus

How can parents take care of themselves, benefiting the whole family?

The Coronavirus pandemic has totally changed the way we relate. With social isolation, our home has become our workplace, our children’s classroom and remains the place where we relax and have fun with our family. When you are a parent, self-care is usually not the number one priority on your list, but your children.

If you’ve ever traveled by plane, remember the famous instructions that flight attendants demonstrate before takeoff. One of these main instructions is the parable of the oxygen masks. “In the case of depressurization of the cabin, the oxygen masks fall off automatically. Pull one of the masks, place it over the nose and mouth, adjusting the elastic around the head and breathe normally, only then help the child at your side ”. This orientation, in the first instance, goes against the maternal and paternal instinct for protection. But if the adult is saved first, there is still more hope of saving the child than the other way around.

If we think in a more logical way, we will understand that we can only give what we have. It’s that simple.

In the next post we will come back with practical tips on how to self-care now and always.